We who preach and write, do so in a manner different from which the Scriptures have been written. We write while we make progress. We learn something new every day. We speak as we still knock for understanding...If anyone criticizes me when I have said what is right, he does me an injustice. But I would be more angry with the one who praises me and takes what I have written for Gospel truth than I would be with the one who criticizes me unfairly. -Augustine


Divorce – For the Children’s Sake part 2

Recently we’ve been talking about Divorce and if it is better to stay together for the children’s sake. When I grew up, divorce was virtually unheard of in our small town. I remember as if it was yesterday when it was whispered around town that Mike’s parents were getting a divorce. The concept of divorce was so devastating that it wasn’t something parents even talked about in front of their children…and I’m not that old! From that day forward I remember growing up wondering if it would ever happen to my parents. Would I be among the small number of growing casualties? It is amazing what fears can put a choke hold on childhood. What has happened to our adult world that we value ourselves so much that we are willing to let our children suffer the irreversible devastating effects of our selfish choices? In the secular book, A Case for Marriage, researchers found that it is indeed better for children for mom and dad to stay married…even unhappily married! Research found that 23 yr olds who experienced a parental divorce before age sixteen had poorer mental health than children whose parents stayed together. Another study where the characteristics of over 2000 married couples were tracked recorded that divorce led to more problematic relationships between parents and child increased the likelihood that adult children would divorce themselves, and lowered children’s future education and career success. Each of these findings should be enough to cause couples to reconsider any rash decision for divorce. But the greatest finding of all is found in Malachi chapter 3 where God says: I hate divorce. And if God hates something, I think it is best to stay completely away…He knows what’s best for us and our children. For those who like to dig deep in the Scripture you should take a look at this passage in Malachi on divorce and compare the KJV with the ESV

Published in: on January 10, 2010 at 7:32 pm  Leave a Comment