We who preach and write, do so in a manner different from which the Scriptures have been written. We write while we make progress. We learn something new every day. We speak as we still knock for understanding...If anyone criticizes me when I have said what is right, he does me an injustice. But I would be more angry with the one who praises me and takes what I have written for Gospel truth than I would be with the one who criticizes me unfairly. -Augustine


For the Children’s Sake

Are children better off when parents in an unloving marriage divorce? In a secular book, A Case for Marriage, the authors reach their conclusion with a resounding NO!

If you read the book, you will learn that though adults may prefer to be romantically in love forever, children really don’t care. They do best when mom and dad stay married, even if their mom and dad aren’t getting along. Divorce, in most cases, has a long term negative impact upon children.

Do you remember the day when parents stayed together for the children’s sake? Well, there is something to be said for that. Research in A Case for Marriage concludes that single mothers reported more discipline problems than unhappily married mothers. I have said this before and it is worth repeating: God is more concerned about us being holy than happy.

Recently two of my friend’s daughters divorced their husbands. There was no infidelity and no abuse. Both young women felt unloved by their husbands. Both husbands were aloof in their relationship and both husbands had a lot of growing up to do. To make matters worse, to accommodate mom’s quest for intimate love, the children now spend time at a day care and the effects of the divorce are already evident in the behavior of these young children.

Have we become so selfish that we care about our own happiness more than our children’s well being? I find it very interesting that right after Jesus talks about divorce in Mark chapter 10 he says, “Let the children come to me; do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God.” Staying together for the children’s sake may not be a bad idea. In fact, if you read this verse closely, in light of his previous discussion on divorce (Mk. 10), you should be able to see the connection that he’s trying to make-that divorce hinders children’s spiritual development.

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