We who preach and write, do so in a manner different from which the Scriptures have been written. We write while we make progress. We learn something new every day. We speak as we still knock for understanding...If anyone criticizes me when I have said what is right, he does me an injustice. But I would be more angry with the one who praises me and takes what I have written for Gospel truth than I would be with the one who criticizes me unfairly. -Augustine


Too Close for Comfort, Part 2

Too Close for Comfort: Part 2

As we continue our discussion on Too Close for Comfort, it is important to note that extreme anxiety about separateness or closeness is often fear-driven. The man who needed the constant companionship of his wife revealed that the root problem was fear. Where there is fear, there is an absence of genuine love. We are created as individuals with unique giftedness, and though we need others for love and support, we equally need our separateness. To arrive at a healthy balance of closeness and separateness, we must learn from a Son who:

“…took upon himself the form of a servant,

and was made in the likeness of men:

And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself,

and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.

Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him…”

Both Father and Son are intimately connected, yet both have their distinct and separate roles to fulfill. The beauty of their connectedness is revealed in their separateness as they serve and honor each other.

Thirty-two years ago, I left family and friends to follow my separate and distinct calling to go to seminary, which laid the foundation for me to start Lamplighter Ministries. This separateness broke my dad’s heart. I later learned that he cried for two years after we left with their grandchildren. Little did I know that God’s call of separation would bring a new sense of closeness. Two years ago, after reading two of our Lamplighter books, Christie’s Old Organ and Buried in the Snow, my dad came to know Jesus as his Savior. I will never forget the day when I heard him say, “Son, I know Jesus as my Savior, and I’m going to ‘Home Sweet Home.'”

When we hold on too closely we will lose; but when we follow God’s call to develop our unique giftedness (separateness), there is gain for all.

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