We who preach and write, do so in a manner different from which the Scriptures have been written. We write while we make progress. We learn something new every day. We speak as we still knock for understanding...If anyone criticizes me when I have said what is right, he does me an injustice. But I would be more angry with the one who praises me and takes what I have written for Gospel truth than I would be with the one who criticizes me unfairly. -Augustine

The Missing Ring, Part 2

Yesterday I shared the story of a mom who lost her wedding ring and suspected her daughter in its disappearance. Let’s listen in as she continues to tell her story:

About a week before I lost my ring, a friend lent me the book, The Basket of Flowers. My daughter and I were both aware that our relationship had been strained. For some reason my friend, without knowing about the missing ring, thought this story might be a source of healing in our relationship.

As the plot unfolded we both learned this was a story about a missing ring. “What a coincidence,” I thought. But before long we came to the scene where Mary’s father asked again and again whether Mary had taken the ring. With each of Mary’s denials, my heart was pierced. I was convicted to the point of tears. My voice became shaky. I tried to read on.

I recalled that fateful day my ring was missing. I got down on my knees and ashamedly confessed my false judgment to my daughter. I implored her forgiveness for the way I treated her. And Debbie didn’t hesitate to grant me her mercy. She pulled me back up on the couch, crawled on to my lap, and hugged me like there was no tomorrow.

Great healing took place that night. My relationship with Debbie was strengthened beyond measure through admission of guilt and sincere repentance. How good God is to teach me humility through the innocence and character of my own dear daughter. My relationship with my Savior was also strengthened through a new awareness of my own inability to judge righteously.

I think I’m getting it. “. . . Provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up . . .” (Ephesians 6:4). Yes, that is the direction I wish to encourage my children this year . . . upwards–no longer crushing their spirit by my own self love.

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