We who preach and write, do so in a manner different from which the Scriptures have been written. We write while we make progress. We learn something new every day. We speak as we still knock for understanding...If anyone criticizes me when I have said what is right, he does me an injustice. But I would be more angry with the one who praises me and takes what I have written for Gospel truth than I would be with the one who criticizes me unfairly. -Augustine


Raise Them Up!

In his book The Education of a Child, seventeenth-century author Francois Fenelon writes,”An authoritative parent whose eye is ever upon their child, who is constantly scolding, thinking they are fulfilling their parental role in pardoning nothing, will oppress their child, especially parents who place the weight of the family concerns upon them; all of this only torments and discourages.”

Having reared three children, I only wish I had learned this truth years ago. As a result of placing responsibility above relationship, I frustrated my children.

Recently a mom called asking for advice concerning her six-year-old son. In describing the behavior of this renegade six-year-old, she went on to say that when it is his turn to wash the dishes, he constantly throws the bubbles around the kitchen and at the other five children. She asked me what I thought of that, and I told her it appears that she had one normal child and five abnormal children!

God made little children to be curious and explorative–to throw bubbles. As parents we need to assign tasks suitable for the age of our children. I suggested that she have him wash just two dishes and have a bottle of bubbles waiting at the end of the counter! You see, rather than placing responsibility above relationship, frustrating our children, we should strive to build relationships through responsibility!

In Ephesians, Paul writes: “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” “Up” is the direction we need to go! Let’s work on being positive with our children. Let’s smile more, yell less, and remember to parent in an upward direction. When we raise our children up, they will spend less time falling when they’re older.

Published in: on November 4, 2011 at 3:53 am  Leave a Comment