We who preach and write, do so in a manner different from which the Scriptures have been written. We write while we make progress. We learn something new every day. We speak as we still knock for understanding...If anyone criticizes me when I have said what is right, he does me an injustice. But I would be more angry with the one who praises me and takes what I have written for Gospel truth than I would be with the one who criticizes me unfairly. -Augustine

Help! I caught my child cheating!

Have you ever found your child cheating on his schoolwork? While you need to see this behavior as a red flag, I would encourage you to look at what might be the underlying cause of your child’s actions.

Cheating is a form of dishonesty. Two reasons for cheating are a fear of consequences and low self-esteem.

Have you placed undue pressure on your child to get good grades? Then perhaps fear is motivating his actions. If fear is the reason for cheating, then not only does the child need help, but his parents do as well. Parents who place undue pressure upon their children cause unnecessary fear and insecurity. As the level of fear increases, the level of reasoning and risk-taking decreases.

If your child isn’t acting out of fear, perhaps the problem is low self-esteem. In this case, the best action you can take is to focus on helping your child succeed in at least one area of his life. Make a big deal out of small accomplishments. Inspiring role models abound in the plethora of books from YWAM, Vision Forum, Lamplighter Publishing, and many Christian publishers today.

The greatest role model is Jesus. Take a moment to observe the trusting relationship the Father has with His son. The Father encourages his son in the presence of others. He says, “This is my beloved son, in whom I am well pleased.” He gives His son a sense of identity and affirmation.

Children need their parents to affirm that they are special and that they are unconditionally loved. We need to build our children up in front of others, just as the Father did with His Son.

1 John 4:18 reminds us that: “There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.”

Recommended Resources:
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For Parents:
The Education of a Child, by Francois Fenelon
The Education of Child Parenting Seminar, by Mark Hamby
Families Where Grace is in Place by VanVonderen

For Children:
Basil ; Or, Honesty and Industry (ages 6 to 11)
Jack the Conqueror (ages 6-11)
Hand on the Bridle (ages 10-16)
Falsely Accused in the High Sierras (ages 12 and up)